It’s very common for any pregnant mom to come up with queries?? Am I doing any harm to the baby?? Is my baby well.? Well.. Though worrying is spoiling the health. Hormones play a role for mood swings a lot. It is a representation of caring deeply about the babies.
“The truth is, most babies are born healthy and perfect. And when there is a problem, it’s just not your fault”.
But here’s the thing: While we should definitely pay attention to the risks we can avoid — and make the most educated choices we can — worry itself doesn’t usually help. In fact, it tends to make us lose sleep and feel overwhelmed, and can even affect stress hormones in ways that affect pregnancy and labor.
So, to encourage you to step away from the stress, here’s a list of 10 things you definitely don’t have to worry about during your pregnancy:
1. Harming your baby.
I find that the most common fear is that we’re going to do something that harms our baby. Does sitting cross leg or doing work climbing stairs cause harm?? As far as the activities are not tiring you it is not going to harm the baby too.
2. Eating for two.
The idea that we have to “eat for two” in pregnancy is a flat-out myth — and one that has encouraged women to both suspend good dietary habits and worry about whether they’re getting enough.
The truth is that during the first and second trimesters, you don’t need any more calories than usual. And by the third trimester you only need 450-500 more calories a day (double that if you’re pregnant with twins).
So if you’re eating an overall healthy diet, let go of the worry that you’re not eating enough for baby.
3. Having sex during pregnancy.
Having sex while you’re pregnant doesn’t usually cause miscarriage or preterm labor. The only precaution? Making sure your sexual partner doesn’t have any diseases that could be passed on to the baby.
But if you’re having symptoms of miscarriage, preterm labor, or have what’s called placenta previa, that’s a different story — follow your obstrectian advice.
4. Eating foods that could give your baby allergies.
A lot of food-conscious mamas avoid dairy, gluten, nuts, and soy during pregnancy, worrying about how it will affect their baby. But while nutrition is super-important, restricting foods during pregnancy has not been found to prevent allergies. In fact, it may even increase risk.
So unless you have to restrict certain foods for your own health, liberating your diet can actually be beneficial to your baby. Keep it healthy, but don’t restrict.
5.Sleeping on your back.
You’ve probably heard that you shouldn’t sleep on your back during pregnancy because it can cut off oxygen to your baby — and that might be leading to a lot of uncomfortable nights on your side.
But until you’re six months pregnant, this isn’t something to be concerned about. After six months, the weight of the baby and your uterus can cause pressure on a large vein called the inferior vena cava, restricting blood flow to you and baby.
However, if you find that you’ve rolled over onto your back during the night, don’t worry! It’s very unlikely that this would cause harm to baby.
6. Stress during pregnancy.
You might have heard that a mom being stressed during pregnancy can affect the baby’s long-term mental health. Especially this Coronavirus pandemic created a lot of stress in everyone’s life. Heal your mind.
The normal stresses most of us experience daily — money worries, relationship tensions, and job anxieties — are not going to cause your baby to have three heads or lifelong depression. As a species, we’ve given birth to healthy offspring under much worse threats.
7.Being a vegan or vegetarian.
No, you don’t have to eat meat and dairy — you can be vegan or vegetarian and have a perfectly healthy pregnancy.
Just make sure your diet includes plenty of vegetarian protein sources (legumes, beans, nuts, and seeds), calcium (organic tofu, almonds, tahini, and green leafy veggies), and iron (legumes, green veggies, red beans, dried apricots, and raisins). And if you’re vegan, make sure to take a B-12 supplement.
Work with your doctor or an integrative nutritionist who is pregnancy-savvy to make sure you’re meeting your prenatal nutritional needs.
8. Normal pregnancy symptoms.
Pregnancy brings with it some quirky symptoms, including nausea, increased urination, round ligament pain, breast tenderness, changes in your sense of smell and taste, sleep disturbances, mood changes, and many more. Knowing what’s normal — and what’s not — can make a huge difference in letting go of unnecessary worries.
There aren’t too many symptoms to worry about, so make sure to talk with your midwife or doctor about those.
9. What labor will be like.
Labor can’t be controlled. All you can do is to be positive.
You can’t force a homebirth, vaginal birth, unmedicated birth, or a perfect story. And worrying about it is not going to get you there.
The best thing you can do is prepare for labor. Take childbirth classes and read books that are supporting of the kind of birth you hope to have. You can also take a hypnobirthing class to give you mind-body skills that can help.
If something comes up that requires you to reroute your plans — for example, a medical reason to have a cesarean — it’s totally appropriate to grieve. But be gentle with yourself and just make sure you’re in good hands. It’s all good.
10.What other people think.
The hard fact is that women can be really judgmental with one another around pregnancy and parenthood choices.
They were many wonderful women who were kicked out of natural mom online groups because they had an epidural or needed a C-section. What other people think is not your worry.
How you do your pregnancy, birth, and parenting is your business alone. If you’re worrying about what other people think, please, stop right now — because it will keep you from making the choices that are best for you and your baby.
And when you make the choices that are right for you, your family and friends will get on board, and you’ll find the right mommy groups for yourself too!